#TheySayTheyreMyAllyBut is a hashtag started by @LynxSainteMarie to address some of the ways that allies regularly FAIL, which is the nature of privilege, to fail. The problem is many of these behaviors become cyclical and abusive and then it’s like are you an “ally” or an “enemy?” Are you about deconstructing oppression or reinforcing it?
My natural stance towards allyship is skepticism. Why? Because my LIFE is on the line, not only tweets. While racism and sexism might be inconveniences for Whites and men, for example, that’s life or death for me. That’s whether or not I get a job or healthcare or whether or not I am safe walking down the street. That’s the source of anxiety, past depression and PTSD in my life. I don’t have the luxury of providing “the benefit of the doubt.” They both impact my health and life. They both take lives.
And I absolutely do not expect “benefit of the doubt” when it comes to cis privilege, thin privilege, literacy/education privilege—some of the privileges that I have. Nope. Be skeptical. That doesn’t mean falsely accuse me of bigotry (as Whites enjoy doing…so much…since they seem to think White privilege evaporates when they’re oppressed for other facets of their identities), but it does mean be skeptical as hell.
Skepticism is safety for the oppressed. Skepticism, not total apathy nor delusions about “goodness.”
If “allyship” can only exist when that person earns money for our pain, disregards our criticisms, or call us “toxic” for not indulging their oppressive words and actions, they’re not allies. The correct word is “oppressor.” And the nature of privilege is such that even while fighting against oppression, as someone privileged, they’re still oppressors. Oppression isn’t linear. Welcome to intersectionality. So the least that can be done is make words like “allyship” and “solidarity” stop being so utterly meaningless. It can mean something through accountability.
Caught on camera SAPD officer arrests woman waiting for bus, but why
Published on Mar 3, 2014
SAN ANTONIO — For 25-year-old Abie Kyle Ikhinmwin, a criminal justice student at the University of Texas at San Antonio, the police speed trap along Highway 281 was fascinating last Friday. So she took pictures and began to share them.
Well, Abie…you wanted to study law enforcement……..You just learned everything you need to know.
White History Month Giveaway!
To celebrate White History Month…a giveaway of some excellent white history-related books, a Kindle, and Amazon gift card.
- $75 Amazon gift card
- Amazon Kindle
- Redress for Historical Injustices in the United States
- Whitewashing Race: The Myth of a Color-Blind Society
You must be:
- 18+ and in the U.S. (trying to adhere to tumblr giveaway rules as much as possible)
- comfortable sharing your address
You can like the post for an extra entry, and winners will be picked using a random picker at the end of March.